Accepting pain as help for purification, study of spiritual books, and surrender to the Supreme Being constitute Yoga in practice.
Aversion is that which follows identification with painful experiences.
Pain that has not yet come is avoidable.
The Yoga Sutras states that a yogi should not fear pain but they should try and avoid it. By doing everything with awarness and prescense, we avoid pain but still live life.
Why should we not be afraid of pain? Because the act of living comes with many risks. When you love someone, you risk their rejection. Should you not love? When you speak your truth, you risk others misunderstanding you. Should you not speak your truth? When you practice yoga, there is the risk of injury. Should you not practice yoga?
To live fully, we have to embrace the risks of pain without fear, but try to avoid it as much as reasonably possible. So when we love, we have to be unattached to the outcome and love for the sake of love. When we speak our truth, we have to do so fearlessly for the sake of truth alone. When we practice yoga, we do so with supreme awareness knowing that pain is possible but not letting it stop our practice. In the big picture of our lives, the benefits of all these actions outweigh the risks.
Everything has risks so you want to build a life with risks worth taking.
Healthy Ways To Approach Pain
Form relationships with like minded people-become very picky about who you let into your life.
"When someone shows you who they are, believe them"- Maya Angelou
Don't make your judgements based on past experiences with other people, but based on what this person is currently showing you. When they show you who they are, and it is not something you want in your life, limit your involvement immediately.
Build the life you want right now- the decisions you make today are your foundation for tomorrow. Make decisions that result in the life you want.
Don't Let Fear be your guide-fear of pain is often irrational. One way to see rather you are afraid or just avoiding is to use these questions from spiritual teacher Byron Katie,
Is it true?
Can you absolutely know that it's true?
How do you react, what happens, when you believe that thought?
Who would you be without the thought?
An example of this would be the thought, "chatarunga pose is bad for me".
Is it true? Yes, I hurt myself doing chatarunga
Can you absolutely know this is true? No, I may have been doing it wrong or to many of them. It is possible that my awareness was off that day. Maybe I don't know how to approach it for my body.
How do you react when you believe that thought? I get afraid of chatarunga. I stop practicing it.
Who would you be without that thought? I would practice chatarunga
In this situation, the questioning reveled that the avoidance of chatarunga is based on ego, fear and past experiences. This is not healthy.
If pain arrives, see it as a teacher-what can you learn from this situation? The pain can either destroy you or make your stronger. The choice is yours.